About Thrive with Duff

Your mind is like a giant filing cabinet and I’m here to show you how to organise and take charge of yours so you can manifest the results you want for yourself and your life.

Imagine a life where your head was full of more supportive & positive thoughts and less of the judgy, negative ones wouldn’t that mindset completely change how you approach your life and feel about yourself?

Hello friend and welcome to my online home!! Cosy right?

Can I be real with you...

One of the weirdest things on earth is writing a page about me! So let’s get the awkward bit out of the way, will we?

Hi, my name is Sarah Eleanor Duff born on March 23rd 1978 which makes me the amazing age of 43. I'm a relationship, life and no BS manifestation coach and entrepreneur.

I love TRAVEL, POTATOES, PUGS AND PLANTS! And I’ve lived a colourful life which will be a book one day.

Because let’s just say this...

Between the years spent hardcore partying. 12 years as an international air hostess. With the endless man drama. And a few years spent bodybuilding and dabbling with fitness modelling I’ve got some stories!!

The Universe has told me I am here on this earth to help you blossom and flourish. No matter what you've experienced up until this point now you've found me things will change.

In a nutshell...

I’m here to help you figure out how to make the vision you daydream about becoming your reality.

Because here’s the truth… Your external world is a reflection of the beliefs you have and the thoughts you think over and over.

Change your beliefs and thoughts and you will change your life.

How do I know this is true? Because I've experienced it first hand in my own transformation journey.

On my 40th birthday, I took a trip to New York and this was a pivotal moment for me!

For 12 years I had travelled the world as a flight attendant and this was the first time I had travelled solo. On that trip, I spent a lot of time reflecting and realised I wasn't happy and my life wasn't filling me up.

It wasn't that my life was awful. But there was a big disconnect inside of me.

I had never managed to be in a healthy relationship. I felt empty & lost on the inside, although you would have never have known it. Sooo many people in my life were pretty shocked when I started to open up and be honest about what was going on.

I spent a lot of my life using alcohol and drugs to escape how I felt inside. And since leaving the airline industry a few years before this trip. I had replaced those with obsessive exercise and diet. And what was going on my friend underneath the hood was I didn't feel attractive enough or good enough.

And in my mind, I thought getting a perfectly ripped physique was going to be the answer to all my problems.

But the more I tried to "fix" myself the worse things seemed to get. I didn't feel better myself I felt worse. And nothing in my life was changing.

So I began to believe that my life was never going to be the way I wanted it to be.

That because there was something wrong with me that I couldn't "fix" I would never get what I wanted.

I didn't decide I was going on a journey of healing (didn't know it was a thing!) All I knew was this...

I wanted to feel different. I wanted my life to be different and the reality had hit that I was then the only person who could make it happen. I didn't know how but I knew I had to figure it out.

So I put my big girl panties on and took full responsibility for myself. And this when my healing and ultimately my transformation journey began.

I had experienced a lot of "little t" trauma throughout my childhood, teens and beyond. (I’m yet to meet a human who hasn’t) Which I had parked and never dealt with because I didn’t think it impacted me.

But reaching my 40’s and realising that things were not working out how I wanted them to.

I had to face up to this reality...

That the external fixes I had been leaning on to try and “fix” me were not the answer. And the time had come for me to look at what was really going on underneath my own hood!!

And oh boy when that thing was lifted I realised how many recurring patterns I had. My negative thoughts. Continually attracting the unavailable men. My unhealthy avoidance habits and over and a fuck ton more.

And this is ironic because I was helping clients join dots and see their patterns. But had never gone deep into my own internal world, I was an edge "skirter", a dabbler but never a plunger! (we tend to teach/ coach/ give amazing advice on the things we ourselves need the most.)

On my journey...

I spent a lot of £££ and tried a whole load of stuff that didn’t help. I got very confused by the “gurus” in the personal development space telling me there was only one way to do things. Especially when it came to spirituality. Which has played a huge part in my transformation.

You were either all in or out which never sat well with me.

I like freedom and this to me was just another thing trying to restrict me! (I stopped restricting my diet so I sure as hell wasn’t going to let something else in to take its place!)

And it DIDN'T allow for my humanness I'm sorry but being positive Polly all the time is toxic. You gotta allow all the feels in.

So I called BS and adopted my own version of spirituality, which I refer to as the AND SPIRITUALITY.

◦ You can be spiritual AND binge Netflix, drink mojitos on a Tuesday and swear.

◦ You can be spiritual AND honour your negative thoughts or feelings.

In fact...

Toxic positivity. Staying strong and bypassing your feelings cause obstacles between you and your dreams.

We all have contrast inside. Light and dark, good and bad, calm and frantic and so why the fuck try and live your life being one-sided??

As part of the healing journey embracing every part of yourself is necessary. And it's also sooo freeing.

This alone massively allowed my relationship with myself to thrive. I feel whole and I have way less self-judgement which feels fucking amazing!

And this liberating AND concept I use everywhere in my life!!

◦ You can meditate, journal, speak to the universe AND enjoy wine and some partying. (partying isn’t my thing anymore but if I wanted to I could!)

◦ You can hate journaling, not have a vision board AND still have a vision for yourself.

◦ You can be a healthy eater AND still enjoy a big juicy pizza, fries with cookie ice cream sandwich for dessert.

◦ You can have fucked up real bad in your life AND heal and move forward nothing is fixed.

◦You can deeply love someone AND still have firm boundaries.

◦ You can have experienced trauma AND still manifest everything you fucking want.

◦ AND you sure don’t have to be a perfectly coiffed, skinny, tanned barbie to be successful in love, business or in fact any other area of life.

You can be imperfect AND experience the life you want.

The inner work, mindset work and spirituality shifts are all very personal things. And it looks and feels different for everyone.

So a big part of my coaching is helping you find what works for you and help you apply it consistently till it sticks!

My purpose...

Is to share my professional training mixed with my own real-life experience. To give you the tools, practices & perspective that will transform you and your life.

I'm here to help you manifest everything you fucking want. To show you how to ignite the fire inside of you and step into your power pants pull 'em up high and tight. To help unleash the fucking fabulous woman you are because you deserve to live your life full out being her.

I got you, you got me and together we can help each other thrive.

Hugs, smushes and mad love

XO Sarah ❤️💫

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